Xián, Affect and affection
The great image says: At the top of the mountain is a marsh: affecting.
Xián: the ideogram and the story. What does it mean for your question?
This hexagram is complementary to hex.41.
Top 6: Affect one's upper jaw, jowls, tongue.
Words have to be carried by the spirit. If they are dictated by some authority, or by wishes of your own heart, or desires of your body (they can be real dictators), or any other common influence, then they have no value. In the beginning was the word: let your own words be the beginning of creativity, always. Even small words, kind remarks, comments, let them all rest on your deepest inner truth.
(Changes to hex.33)
9 at 5: Affect one's back. Without regret.
Influences which can be felt in the back or neck are the strongest ones and the most difficult to trace. They are intense and mysterious, they go back to primitive feelings of fear, agressivity, power, trust or mistrust. If that influence is positive or negative decides most of all how a relation will be.
(Changes to hex.62)
4: Determination auspicious. Regrets disappear. Unsettled, going, coming. Friends comply with your thoughts.
For real contact one has to let go of etiquette and starchiness. Many people complain of the grind in their relationship. Be spontaneous, be just as new as every new moment, share every upcoming thought, be a bit crazy, a lot happy and don’t forget playing.
(Changes to hex.39)
9 at 3: Affect one's thigh. Holding in the hand one's follower. To proceed: Distress
When someone depends on you, literally or mentally, then be careful with those small kneejerk reactions. In the long run they have a lot of impact. They decide about the quality of your connection.
(Changes to hex.45) Mirror
6 at 2: Affect one's calf. Pitfall. To settle is auspicious.
For a good contact one needs to keep one's composure. Impulsive and rash reactions disturb relations. People want to feel at ease and to know were they stand, these two things are the base of being together.
(Changes to hex.28)
Initial 6: Affect one's big toe.
Relations bring in new things, a new idea, a new love, a new opportunity. If nothing stands in the way, then grasp this chance for new enthusiasm and new energy. It is the steam and adventure made possible by a relation. They are much harder to find when being alone.
(Changes to hex.49) Mirror