Tóng Rén: the ideogram and the story. What does it mean for your question?
This hexagram is complementary to hex.7.
Top 9: Union of people in the meadow. Without regret.
Recognizing "your own kind" has nothing to do with levels. It is all about being human, and not about high or low, good or bad, rich or poor. So show clearly who and what you really are, and see and accept what others really are, without imposing your own standards.
(Changes to hex.49) Mirror
9 at 5: Union of people: first wailing and weeping and yet afterwards laughing. Great legions are
capable of mutual
For relations it is necessary to know where you're at. Make your intentions and feelings known, as soon and as clear as possible. The enemy is always the one you don't know. Talking can turn enemies into friends. Real leaders are capable of meeting with even the worst of enemies.
(Changes to hex.30)
9 at 4: War-chariots against a rampart. Not able to attack. Auspicious.
Create strong boundaries and clear ethics for yourself, which cannot be shattered. They are just as essential for good contacts as the ability to be open. You decide yourself when to give your riches to others but you should never let them be taken.
(Changes to hex.37)
9 at 3: Hiding away arms in the thickets. Ascending a high mound. Three years not
rising (up again).
Too much self-defense is counterproductive. Try to find the right size of trust and mistrust. Neither extreme is healthy, when you manage to walk a self-confident road, you will be at ease with people and with this world.
(Changes to hex.25) Mirror
6 at 2: Union of people at the ancestral temple. Distress.
Restrictions, mores, and cliques - putting people or things in a box - prohibit them to be genuine and true. Simple contacts, flexible, open and casual, make people know and love each other.
(Changes to hex.1)
9: Union of people at the gate. Without fault.
Don't rush into relations, but start cautiously. Test your impressions and be wary of nice talk. Only commit yourself when you are entirely sure it is the right thing to do.
(Changes to hex.33) Mirror